I have been married for much of the time since reaching my 21st birthday almost four decades ago.
There were some good years. And then there were some very bad years. It has been just about like life in general with all its ups and downs. In the past almost ten years it has been my good fortune to be very happily married to someone who I consider to be an angel in training.
Or maybe a saint. I’m not sure about the difference but I do know that when you have loved and lost a couple of times it really, really makes you appreciate a good relationship when it finally happens. And I was trying to come up with something today that really sums up what a good relationship is all about.
What is it about this relationship that makes it so good on a day to day basis?
And what have I seen in other relationships among friends and family that makes their relationship so special?
Lots has been written about trust and mutual respect. More has been written about a relationship that is based on spiritual values and caring.
But one of the things I find that really makes a relationship special is the ability to tell a perfectly stupid joke and get a great response. You have to have a really relaxed relationship to do this. And I found that out at the pool yesterday when I made up this joke on the spur of the moment.
Beth and I had just gone for a little swim in the pool. Neither one of us particularly wanted to expose our overweight and under exercised bodies to the younger crowd who hangs out here with their children on Memorial Day. But at least we were not blocking anyone’s view!
I digress. But the point is that I am also far from being at a healthy weight. And I try to confront that issue whenever possible by walking around the neighborhood. It’s a tough problem and I sympathize with anyone who is trying to deal with it.
So why did the chicken cross the road?
To get to the sunny side of the street!
My wife laughed when I said it or maybe she just gave me a smile. It was a look that said “You are crazy but I love you”. We had our swim and we talked for awhile.
We recognize that we are far from perfect in many ways. And we are relaxed and even happy with our relationship in spite of that fact.